Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Are all men homophobic?

Yes.
Or at least most.
But yes, most men, who have no religious, nor moral, nor opinionated objection to homosexuals, LGBT culture, or even anything "gay" are homophobic. In short, most men who are "gay friendly" are actually homophobic.
Let me explain.
I believe there are actually 3 different types of homophobia;
-Homophobia: Mental, psychological, and/or emotional fear of homosexually erotic material (culture, porn, people, etc).
-Homophobia: The irrational hatred, mistrust, and/or hostility aimed towards homosexuals.
-Homophobia: The irrational paranoia and/or worry of coming across as homosexual, by misconceived notions of stereotypical homosexuality and/or the negative contemparary connotation of "gay".
To avoid confusion let call these 3 "homosexualphobia", "homosexual hostility", and "homosexual paranoia" respectfully. So lets ask again.
Are most men homosexualphobic?
No.
Only a small percentage have an actual fear of homosexuals.
Are most men homosexually hostile?
No.
It may seem so on worst days, but no. at least less than half of men are hostile to homosexuals.
Are most men homosexual paranoid?
YES!
Don't think so? Two words....

NO HOMO!

The mere fact that we have a phrase that "cancels" out gayness shows the subtle tabboo homosexuality still is seen as. The fact that men now say "no homo" when not sure whether something they said was or wasn't "gay" shows not only a complete lack of understanding and respect for the LGBT community but also it shows that most men are so uncomfortable in social settings that vaguely touch on homoeroticism that they pretty much shout (more or less) "I'M NOT GAY".
Imagine being in a coffee shop, everything's normal. And then someone bursts out "I'M NOT GAY",followed by some nervous laughing and shifty eyes. What would you think?
"Me thinks he dost protest too much".
Imagine your friend says "Hey, have you been working out? No homo", what do you think the thought process for that would have been?
Hear what they just said > recognition with familar thoughts > recognition familar thoughts with assumed actions > "NO HOMO".
It's like the King who has to be constantly told he is great. Would you have faith in a man who has to be told he's worthy?

That was only the fresh apples in the barrel. More tried and tested pillars of society that reveal the paranoia underterm of heterosexuality is the lazy use of terms like "faggot", "fag", "gay", "queer", "puff", "fairy", "nancy", "limp wrist", "bum boy", "twink", "fruit", "bent", "bender", "cake", "pixie", "prince", "dyke", "dixie", and "homos" (to name a few). I cant think of any other situation where the swear word is used on someone who isn't that thing. If a white called a black guy a "kyke", there would be a bit of confusion in the air. The black guy wouldn't be insulted. He'd be a bit angry that this other guy has a problem with jews, but he himself wouldn't be offended. However, one man calling another man a gay slur, even if he wasn't gay, would automatically result in the "victim" defending his sexuality. "I'm not gay, you're gay" is the common reaction. Imagine saying "You're so Black" and the reply is "I'm not black, you're black"; you quickly see the strange and slightly offensive circumstance you are in (especially considering that "you're so black" is, in modern day usage, reserved as a compliment and/or a description of a person's mannerism). Words like "fag" are tossed around as an insult so often that it's almost now officially not even homophobic to say it anymore. It's almost an empty threat like "I'll kill you" or "You're dead"; in context it doesn't mean anything and can be very easily brushed off with the excuse "I didn't mean it".

Can homosexuals and bisexuals be homophobic?
In some cases.... yes.
I often joke that whenever I'm creative, or when I dress nicely, or when I do anything intelligent, it's my "gay side". Sometimes when I hear myself say something I quickly follow with "man, that sounded gay". I never use the phrase "no homo", because if I did, I'd be screwed on the dating scene (I mean more than I already am), but it does seem that I have bought into this acceptance of "gay is bad". Is it brainwashing? Is the fact that I'm from a small town with a small (if not non-existing) LGBT community a cause for me to associate more with straight mannerisms than with gay sensibility? Or is it simply the fact that in reality, even with acknowledgement of LGBT culture, heterosexuality, (or "acting straight") is the dominant train of thought? I don't know. What I do know is that it does shows that I have fallen for this whole "empty phrase" mindset, where I dont say what I mean, and I don't mean what I say.


VIDEO: "NO HOMO" by "THE STATION"